Accepting what you can’t change-managing stressAugust 4, 2014
Trying to fix a problem isn’t always the right approach! While problem solving is a good approch based coping style for situations within your control, preoccupying your mind and efforts with a need for change in situations outside of your control is not helpful!
That is, change the situations that you can but work towards accepting the situations that you can’t! Perseverating on issues outside of your control with negative thoughts and ongoing efforts for change will only reinforce a sense of hopelessness and negativity.
Accepting a situation doesn’t mean that you are ok with it happening in the first place. It simply means that you are acknowledging that it has either happened or that it is happening outside of your control and that given that there is nothing you can do about it, there is no positive function of getting emotionally involved and enmeshed with it.
Focus your attention on the things that you can change! Remember that goals for change should follow the SMART acronym that includes the goal being achievable.
What is going on in your life that you would be best accepting rather than ruminating negatively about? Maximise the potential of your day by not involving your mind in negative situations or stressors and focusing on being calm and accepting that situations happen outside of your control.